Did you ever realize how quickly girls profile guys? It just takes them seconds: this guy’s a player. That one’s the classic “nice guy”, the next one is too full of himself. Let me tell you, all of that is still tolerable, but there’s one type that’s horrible beyond hope: the creep.
Once you’re in that category, you’re done.
A creep is a guy who has no frickin’ clue how to make a girl comfortable!
He behaves like a total dick and literally creeps the ladies out. It’s bad. Really bad. If a creep is an only child, he will extinguish his family’s name for all eternity unless he changes.
I realized how serious this is, and I want to share my knowledge with you today.
Comfortable or creepy?
This is an easy one for me, because I have been there often enough to tell. You are a creep if you do these or similar things…
– give her a lot of flowers after talking to her once
– make explicit sexual remarks to her in front of your common colleagues
– poke her in the sides all the effing time
– hover around her awkwardly for an hour wearing questionable clothes
– get harrowingly wasted and blubber a compliment about her boobs into her boobs
…and if she reacts in these or similar ways:
– avoids your company
– only responds in very short phrases
– never contacts you ever again
– talks to her girlfriends while sending worried glances your way
– runs away
All right, so how do I make her comfortable, you ask? Let’s get to it.
Smile because you’re happy
Don’t be the snarling, growling Clint Eastwood type. Clint can pull it off, you can’t. You actually profit from being genuinely friendly and caring. Give her a smile (see how to make a girl smile) when she deserves it (not to please her! Only when she makes you feel good! And point that out). The point of the smile is to show that you’re a happy, positive guy. If you’re happy then your life must be good…
Don’t you feel all warm and fuzzy inside when somebody smiles at you because they enjoy your company? You feel appreciated. So will she. She will enjoy your company because she craves attention, and you give it to her.
Be comfortable touching her
For the uninitiated, stay the hell away from her breasts. There are actually other perfectly acceptable parts of a woman you can touch early on in an interaction that show that you are comfortable with touching people. The logic behind this is that, if you’re comfortable touching people, then other people must touch you on a regular basis so it’s “Ok”.
– Tell her your name and shake her hand
– Touch her shoulder with the back of your hand when you make a point
– High fives
– Nudge her lightly if she teases you
– Spin her around
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The way you treat others counts
You can be Mister Awesome with her all night, attentive, funny, intriguing, magnetic. But as soon as you dick around with the waiter, annoy the people at the next table or insult a guy who comes over to hit on her while she’s with you, guess what, you’re done.
Because she will see that your attitude towards her is just a facade. You’re either genuinely positive, or you’re a hypocrite. Nobody wants to be with a hypocrite.
So if a guy comes over from the bar to hit on her, don’t become Mister Territory Alpha Dog. Shake the guy’s hand, be friendly, make him a compliment. He’s a human being, too. He, too, wants to be appreciated. You are not needy. You are not desperate. YOU ARE NOT OUTCOME-DEPENDENT. You give people love because you want to, not because you want them. You are ready to lose her at any point because you know you’re awesome enough to meet more great girls.
When you start appreciating the guy who came to hit on her, there will be a loud voice in her head yelling “What? No! Me! No! Me!” and she’ll want even more of your attention! And the guy will happily leave you two alone when you say “hey, we’re gonna get some privacy now, but let’s stay in touch on Facebook, you’re cool.” Believe you me, your chances will rise exponentially if you concentrate on how to make a girl comfortable with you. Go out and be awesome.