Okay, here’s a basic lesson about seduction for you guys out there: being men, you innately possess all the attractiveness you need to seduce women. He who wears no masks and is in full alignment with his masculinity shall get laid. Powerful words. Still, that’s not the whole story! As much as women will agree to the first part and hate to admit what comes now, learning how to seduce women through behavior plays a significant part in flirting. The “wrong” tenure, body language or composure can screw you big time before you get to screw anyone else. This is why with all the authenticity and sincerity you need, knowing about the right behavioural traits will help you in your journey to seduce women.
Your mannerisms have to reflect your inner attitude.
Before I open the door to seducer wisdom for you, though, remember that all you learn here has to become a reflection of your innermost being and convictions. Otherwise, it’ll be smoke and mirrors, and you’ll end up pissing your girl off majorly when she discovers that you were trying to pull “techniques” on her. Do not “act” this. BE it. All right, now here we go.
I find it disconcerting how many people avoid steady and solid eye contact in everyday life, even when they are already in a conversation. You want to get good with women? Start practicing eye contact right now, and I’m talking every person you ever come across here. Once you’re in a conversation with a girl, you want to hold steady eye contact and explore her eyes with true curiosity. They reflect what people think and feel inside. Which brings us to the next point:
Radiate sexual energy
With a steady eye contact, your thoughts will transmit. There is an energy, an aura, that every person has, and it can be transferred across the physical boundaries of our bodies. If you are sitting close to the girl, perhaps facing her on the same bench (and that’s a situation you hopefully established when you came into the conversation – do not sit across a table, it gives you zero leverage!), and have been building some intensity in eye contact, don’t let your thoughts be about… libraries, bees and flowers or the Ark of the Covenant. This is male-female interaction, spice it up! Think about what it would feel like to kiss her, the texture of her lips (look at them), the taste of her tongue. Think about your breath on her neck. She’ll feel that vibe.
If you’re never even thought about what kind of energy you project, then you’re very likely missing out on an entirely other level of communication with women.
Hectic or quick movements will never spark any gut-level attraction in a woman. Be a lover with a slow hand, a man with an easy touch. Love and seduction are smooth and tender, and so have to be your movements: imagine your movements as one flow – they’re all interconnected, like the movements of a ballet dancer. In a steady flow, escalation is not happening in steps, it is just moving along gaplessly to higher and higher points.
Lower your voice
A nervous, high-pitched, rushed voice is anything but attractive or even seductive. The real seduction kicks in when you tone down your voice to a croon that still vibrates with low-key energy. In those moments, it doesn’t even matter what you say. I once listened to a girl explain to me the procedures for signing up and paying for a workshop. While she was speaking, I looked deeply into her eyes with calm and desire, and when she was done, when I spoke, it was deep and slow. On the surface, we exchanged simple information, but on a deeper level, a lot of male-female tension was going on.
Establish body contact
You want to put yourself into a position where you can easily get close to her, touch her, kiss her. If your head is already close to hers, it’s easier to reach her lips as getting up from your chair and walking around the table. Don’t hesitate to touch her legs with yours when sitting next to her, or take her hand when you’re making a point, or stroke her cheek with the back of a finger when she says something cute. Never do so in a clingy or needy way: remember that you are in control of the situation.
Watch “Don Juan DeMarco” with Johnny Depp
I mean it.
These are a couple of pointers on your journey to learn how to seduce women. There are many ways that can lead to seduction and love: when and where you do what depends on the circumstances and the two individuals involved. When you “click” into somebody’s personality, and establish that vibe that starts with the first intense eye contact, you will have a “feel” for steering the interaction.