There is so much anticipation for that first kiss that the last thing you want to do is screw it up. Don’t worry because here are some kissing tips that will make that moment happen faster, easier and more memorable. That’s a tall order, but before we start, think about your kiss as the one act where your masculinity is on the line, where you put all the validation you received up in the air for the chance to move forward. Honestly, there is no hard and fast rule that guarantees a kiss but there are things that you can do to stack the cards in your favor.
I’m going to assume that you’ve been charming before you move in for the kiss and that the girl is attracted to you. The question now is what can you do before you make your move to help you out?
Isolate her from the group.
No girl wants to be thought a slut by her friends, and that is what they are afraid of when they are with their friends. Just pull her away with a “Come here, I want to show you something” and her anti-slut defense will be drastically lowered.
Kiss her on a high.
Most guys will kiss a girl during a lull in the conversation, when they are not feeling the euphoria of the validation given by a girl’s attention. (See how to get a girl’s attention) When a girl is enjoying herself, she is far more likely to return your kiss than if you go for it when she’s not feeling that emotional spike.
I’m not a big fan of lines as they seem rather contrived but in the right situation, they can be gold. There is a vast array out there online and I’ll leave you to find them yourselves, but an example of a “kissing line” would be “How good a kisser are you between 1 and 10? Well, lets find out”
– This is the essential “kissing tip” that every guy needs to know. Look at one eye, then slowly lower your gaze to her lips and then up to her other eye. It’s a very sexual move which signals that you want to kiss her. If she doesn’t turn away, you know the time is right.
Hopefully, this has led you to the kiss. By now, you may be wondering… now what?
Don’t Be The Make Out Guy
First of all, don’t be the tacky make out guy. You know that couple who’s making out like there’s no tomorrow in the corner of the club? Don’t be that guy. If you give up all your power like that so quickly, the girl will lose attraction for you and you will find it far more difficult to get a day two or escalate.
If you want to amp up the attraction, break the kiss first. Most guys will not stop kissing first just because they’re afraid they’re not going to get anymore for a long time and will try and get the most out of the kiss. By breaking the kiss first, it shows you don’t put excessive value on the interaction and are willing to walk away.
Tongue or no tongue?
Don’t just stick your tongue into her mouth. The best thing to do is wait for her to initiate tongue before you do but if you want to try, introduce it slowly and gently. Suddenly finding someone else’s tongue down your throat when you’re not ready for it is NOT very sexy at all.
Now there is always the question of what you can do if your kiss did not hit. Yes, I’m talking about the dreaded “cheek-turn of DOOM”. Well, here’s the most important thing you can do to salvage the situation:
Don’t be affected! That’s right; just keep on talking and joking as if nothing had happened. If you don’t let yourself get affected by this temporary setback, you are sub-communicating to her that you are not the type of guy who puts an unreasonable amount of value on this interaction and on her. She’s free to enjoy your company. Her not kissing you is not “no”. It’s just a “not yet”.
Try again! She may just be waiting to see how persistent you are, whether you have the masculinity it takes to keep on going after what you want. Understand this – if the girl stays and continues talking to you, it means she is still into you. Do you honestly think a girl won’t walk away from a guy they’re not interested in?
You may have noticed that I haven’t said anything about what to do after you successfully kiss the girl. That’s because, really, there’s only one piece of advice I can give you:
Don’t mess up!
Really, there’s no trick you can use after you’re done kissing. She’s reciprocated the interest and now is the time to continue to vibe with her and escalate. Don’t suddenly make things awkward or act like the kiss was a big deal – it’s just a way for the both of you to have some fun and enjoyment together.
As long as you keep your head and stay cool, more often than not you always have a shot. Remember, kissing is just a fun thing you do to solidify the emotions of the moment. Have fun with what you’re doing and keep having fun, regardless of the outcome. If you’re craving for more kissing tips, like how to know EXACTLY when she’s ready to be kissed, you’ll definitely want to check out David D’s Double Your Dating, it’s highly recommended.
His book will give you a leg up when it comes to meeting and kissing girls within moments of meeting her!